theboardrider

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I began testing my boardriding chops shortly after graduating high school in Oklahoma City. 4 buddies and myself moved from our parents homes in OKC to Grandview Apartments in Encinitas, CA circa January 1999. By summer we learned to surf and had lots of adventures.

I attended Mira Costa College in Cardiff-by-the-Sea from 200-2001, then returned to Oklahoma City to regain residency and finish school in Oklahoma. Enrolling at Northeastern State University in Tahlequah, OK in January 2003, I graduated in May 2006 with a degree in Mass Communications. Highlights of NSU were my term working for the college newspaper and my star turn as “Rocky,” in the Rocky Horror Show, October 2005.

Today, what can I say, I’m blessed! I try to live for my kids, although I’d be fooling myself to not admit I can get selfish every now and then and take things for granted. But I’m aware of shortcomings and am better about managing them. My personality is a lover not a fighter; at least that’s what I heard from my mom growing up. But she also told me I was “special,” and believing her made the first 15 years of adulthood a lot more difficult. Overall, I try to treat people with kindness, and I hope to leave any encounter with the other person feeling a bit better than they did before we interacted. If I can brighten your day, then it brightens mine.

Motivating and coaching is my forte. I like to skateboard and do other “board,” sports. I love the Cubs, Chargers, Sooners and Thunder. If I know you a little bit, I probably consider you a friend. I don’t really have “acquaintances.” I’m loyal and if you are my “friend,” I will move heaven and earth to help you if you need me.

I crusade a bit too much and it gets me into trouble. I spend too much time fighting injustice and things that are beyond my control! If someone is getting a raw deal, I’m liable to to get involved and help. As I said, it gets me into trouble, but I can’t help myself. However, conversely, in most instances I have learned to keep my opinion to myself unless it’s asked for! Unless of course, it’s in defense of someone or something. Shoulda been a lawyer…

I’m high on life! And that’s it these days. Some of my posts are from years ago and talk about wild partying and whatnot. It’s part of my past, and I don’t regret, but have learned from it. Today I don’t drink, or smoke but I do make a helluva designated driver. So keep in mind that the old stuff related to that kind of life, I neither advocate or currently live in any way, shape or form. I’m still kind a nut though, although I’ve gotten brought most of my activity back to the better side of that fine line between stupid and crazy. And I think most friends would say I’m more fun at a party now than I was then. Certainly less likely to break your nice things. šŸ˜‰

Writing is what I do well…and I’m grateful to God for that. Tom Brady has his skill, David Beckham has his, Leo DiCaprio and Johnny Depp got those looks. Me, I can be really descriptive and express my point with the written word. Lot of good it’s ever done me. However, along with the gift of pen, I’m also a great reader. I should absolutely be a teacher at Derek Zoolander’s School for Kids Who Can’t Read Good! I read an engrossing book at a rate of about 250 pages per day, or 72 hours to read an 800 page book. I base this on Greg Iles, Natchez Burning, which I read in 3 days. Probably about 3 hours a day šŸ˜‰ And I say I’m a gifted writer, but I’m out of practice. I don’t have a Stylebook handy and I’m really not spending any time editing this blog. So save your snickers for someone else…they aren’t all that satisfying.

I genuinely want to be of service, and the fact that I could help get someone home safely makes me feel good. It’s physically and emotionally impossible to feel down when I’m helping someone else. So yes, I fight co-dependency, but I’m good these days at recognizing that there is only so much I can control, so I’ll help, but I won’t beat myself up if you don’t accept the help or aren’t willing to take action. I can lead a horse to water…yada, yada, yada.

I still board whenever I can but after various injuries on my short skateboard I’m strictly a longboarder these days. Change has impacted my life for the better as I can proudly claim that while I still like a good party, I no longer drink any sort of alcohol or engage in any other mind altering substances. I’m strictly high on life and sobriety suits me just fine. No regrets and onward and upward toward bigger and better things!

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One comment

  1. Cliff · February 19, 2015

    Hey man, hit me back. Email is xaviusshadow@gmail.com.

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